How to Turn Epic Failures into Future Success (a guest post)

I'm dazin' but check out Vishnu's guest post on Brazen.
I'm dazin'but check out Vishnu's guest post on Brazen

Once upon a time, I used to practice law.

Yes, if you needed a lawyer to help you immigrate to the U.S. or get the hell out, I was your man. I ran an online immigration law firm advising clients from all over the world. It was the most fun I’ve ever had helping people achieve their American dream.

The part I loved about the work was helping my clients immigrate to America, reunite with loved ones and defending them when the American government tried to kick them out. The part I found challenging was running a full-scale business. My first one.

Anyway, it was a humbling experience running a practice, operating a business and fighting for my clients.

After a couple years with this struggling business, I realized I had to close shop and move on from a venture I had put my heart and soul into.

I learned so much from having run this law firm. Even though I had to close it down, I never regretted this business for a minute. It taught me profound lessons about business, marketing and law.

To learn more about my journey and find out how to turn failures into success, visit my my guest post on the Brazen Careerist blog. A special thanks to editor, Alexis Grant, for publishing this post.

Please leave me a comment on the Brazen Careerist blog and let me know if you’ve failed before. How did you make your comeback?

If you’ve never failed and don’t want to succeed ha! no worries. Enjoy some photos below from the San Francisco Zen Center. If you’re in the San Francisco, California area, drop in to zen out.

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16 Comments

    1. You become in a very zen-like state by just being there. Thanks for your comments on the Brazen Careerist blog Wendy!

  1. Letting go of bad situations is not an easy thing to do. Sometimes our ego driven needs prevent us from severing the attachment and making plans for a gracious exit. Other times cessation is eminent and there is no time to let go before a plan, a dream is simply gone.

    A long time ago I was part of a plan gone wrong that none of us partners wanted to own up and take responsibility for. It was a bad plan and it failed. I struggled in silence until I changed my POV as I was walking on the stepping stones at the edge of my pond and mentally lamenting my situation. I slipped off one stone and got my feet wet. Oh well … I stepped onto the next and next until I reached the deep end where the stones ended. I looked into the deep water and saw my own concerned face but didn’t dive in. I paused and …

    Eureka! I closed my eyes and brought the bigger picture of the mess we were in into focus. We got our feet wet and we lost some money and time – so what? No one had drowned. I had my moment of truth right then and there, a moment I’ll never forget.

    Failures are stepping stones to future success, because each one contains within in it, all the required information to succeed in your next venture.

    When I experienced that ephiphany I freed myself from experiencing guilt and dread and then did I what I had to do. I called a meetings and boldly stated we did our best and we failed, so now it’s time to take responsibility for the undoing and then we can move on. There were shouts on “no” and remonstrations at first. The next day there were tears but on the following day we reached consensus. it was time to shut down. I gave everyone one month’s notice in individual face-to-face meetings. Then, together we partners dissolved the partnership in an orderly fashion without residual hard feelings.

    P.S. I don’t have or want a Facebook account so I could not comment on your post there. I’m so glad you posted here too.

    1. hey thanks so much T for your comment. Yes, no one drowned in your story which is a powerful message. And you were able to move on without hard feelings.

      If we just changed our perspective on failure, we’d all want to fail a lot more, don’t you think:) ? The more we fail, the more we learn how not do something and the closer we get to unlimited success.

      Thanks for sharing your story and letting me know that yes, life indeed goes on post failures.

      1. We live in such competitive societies where everything is focused on being a “winner” and comparisons to “losers” are crushing. Sometimes we have to fail before we learn how to win. I think we need to give the boot to competitiveness and comparisons and start teaching children well. Rather than teaching them to fixate on being “winners” and internalizing self-defeating and self-deprecating “loser” messages, children need to be taught how to be gracious losers, who get smart and become winners on the rebound. The three most important things to teach children are responsibility for their own actions, resourcefulness and resilience.

        P.S. In a past life I was a paralegal.

        1. Agreed! What if we were taught there were valuable lessons in losing? And losing was an education by itself? Good points here. And glad to meet you of course – I’m sure our legal backgrounds (view into legal problems of the world) gives us extra insight on failure, starting over and success.

          1. There’s little doubt my colossal failure shared with my partners was an education. It would be interesting to research how many people we consider to be successful today have publicly admitted to their failures.

  2. I loved the post on Brazen Careerist! I’m not trying to plug Kobe Bryant here but I think one way to deal with failure is to take his rapid fire practice approach. Boldly take a ton of shots at the basket making small (or big adjustments) until you score and keep doing that until you are dominating. I think the fear of failure and the wallowing in it when we occasionally do fail, are the problem.

    1. Thanks for dropping by Bjorn and giving Kobe a plug. I hope by this endorsement, you’re not a Lakers fan. I do agree that he has had a lot of failure, however and even succeeded a few times:)

      No time to wallow in failure when you can embrace it and thrive.

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