Facing an unwanted divorce or breakup?

Filled with anger, resentment and confusion? 


No idea what to do and unable to let go? 

You thought this relationship was forever. Why didn’t your ex get the memo? 

He may have even moved on with someone half his age that he met in Eastern Europe while you’re devastated, drunk and reading blogs on heartbreak.  

You’ve tried Eat Pray Love, drank Merlot by the gallons, listened to  Adele on repeat and spent way too many days feeling like hurting your ex while meditating at Vipassana retreats.  

I hear from people who have been devastated by an unwanted and unexpected divorce. The guilt and self-blame is heavy even if it’s their spouse that destroyed the marriage.  

People are brewing in anger, resentment, regret and hatred towards their ex. They are in shock and disbelief. They want their previous marriage back.  

As a breakup and divorce coach, I work with people to move on and let go of hurtful relationships and painful marriages.  I help them get to a place of acceptance, forgiveness, and healing so they can move on with their lives faster. 

I’m not a therapist who works with people for years. I use practical coaching tools and spiritual principles that worked for me to help you let go and find peace again. 

After finding this coaching blog, 19 out of 20 people: 

  • Are able to make peace with their breakups and divorce
  • Let go of excruciating guilt and self-blame to find acceptance
  • Get a sense of normalcy as they rebuild their lives  
  • Start a new life feeling free, happy and joyful 

The 20th reader unfortunately moves to the Himalayas and becomes a monastic. 

You’re not sure how you ended up here but since you’re here, join me on a journey to peace and clarity. Sign up below. 


Who are you?

Hi. I’m Vishnu but I’m no guru and definitely no Hindu God. 

I was stuck in the past for way too long after my own divorce, bitter and angry at what had happened.

I was so angry at my ex who I felt gave up on our marriage too soon. 

I vowed to do everything in my power to save our marriage and did everything I could, but ultimately our marriage ended in divorce. 

It took years to let go of this pain, anger, and resentment.  Half the time, I  was angry at her and half of the time, I regretted the relationship had ended. I thought my life was over and I would die alone. 

To move on, I had to do the deep inner work of healing the pain, letting go and moving on with my life. 

I spent years trying to figure out what it took to let go for good. After much searching, I found my answers. I developed my own process for letting go and finding peace within that I now coach people on. (Learn more here

I went through the CTI coach training program once it became clearer that I wanted to coach people in similar situations. 

I got out of law practice and did social justice work for a few years. On the side, I started writing books and fulfilling a life-long dream to become an author.

I started coaching people on how to let go of marriages and relationships that had ended.   

Today, I write, coach, live a spiritually rich and creative life with family, friends and a strong support system.  I hit the lottery and found an incredible partner.  

I have a simple message now to people: you can let go of the past and have an even better life than before.  

Also, don’t give up on love. No matter how painful the divorce or breakup, give love another chance.  

You don’t have to stay stuck forever in confusion and turmoil. Let’s work together to let go of the past once and for all. 

People who are more spiritual, introverted, sensitive and socially conscious tend to reach out to me for help with healing after their divorce or letting go of their breakup. 

I want you to sign up below if you’re ready to move on and find peace of mind and clarity.  If you don’t want to waste years of your life and want to 


What else can you tell us about yourself?

 

10 Fun Facts

I love transit lounges in airports. They remind me that everything is in transit. The best part about transit lounges (other than the people-watching) is that you get to go somewhere exciting after your transit stop. True in travel. True in life.

I love Sacramento, California, where I grew up, even though I don’t live there anymore. I love the Sacramento Kings, I love downtown where I used to practice law and had my own law office, and I love Andy Nguyen vegetarian food in midtown Sacramento.

My most enjoyable work previously was as a divorce lawyer. I helped dozens of families go through the divorce process. I heard from clients that our legal appointments were some of the most relief they found. Imagine that – peace and relief at your lawyer’s office !?! It inspired me to become a divorce coach. 

One song I’ve listened to more than any other song in my life is “Nobody Knows” by Tony Rich. This was the song that I listened to countless times during those college all-nighters. Ironically (or maybe not), it’s a song about a tragic breakup with lonely nights and sad days to follow.

My all-time favorite book is the epic love story in the novel One Hundred Years of Solitude, by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. This is the most memorable and most impactful book I’ve ever read in my life. The Power of Now is second and the Alchemist is third. 

Growing up, the one spiritual book that I kept returning to was the Bhagavad Gita. I was fascinated and read many chapters in this book about letting go much before I had anything to let go of. 

I married the woman I had my first date with. I also divorced the woman who I had my first date with. We are friends today.

After my divorce, I minimized my life so that all my belongings can fit into one car. I own 33 articles of clothing. I believe in minimalism and simplicity. 

When I was in high school, I attended 2 Sunday schools – and not just on Sundays. I had prayers daily at home, temples on the weekends and pilgrimages to India every summer. You got it – all the elements for a lifetime of therapy.

I love Chinese vegetarian food, Pokez in San Diego, roti canai, Ceylon orange pekoe tea, vanilla tart frozen yogurt, soybean milk, red bean steamed buns, tofu, at-home kirtans, church sermons, immigrants, stories of hope and overcoming adversity, resilience, justice & truth.

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