Feel lost about what you want or what next? 

Struggling to move on from your divorce or breakup?

Feel like moving to the Himalayas?

You never in a million years thought you’d be reading this blog. 

Then again, you likely never imagined going through this life-crushing divorce or breakup either.  

This past relationship was for life or so we thought. Why didn’t your ex get the memo? 

They may have even moved on and living their best life while you’re stuck, angry, a little drunk most days and reading blogs!?

You feel shaken up and like a part of you died. Grief filled your heart with sadness and anger at your ex and disappointment with yourself.

You now feel lost, directionless and purposeless.  

You’ve tried Eat Pray Love, drank a lot of Merlot, listened to a lot of Adele and spent way too many days in Vipasana retreats but you can’t seem to shake your ex or figure out what to do with your life. 

You want to let go, move on with your life and find peace and direction again.

You’re not sure how you ended up here but since you’re already here, might as well get get on the Vishnu train. 


Who are you?

Hi. I’m Vishnu but I’m no guru or divine reincarnation of any sort. 

I coach people who have come out of breakups, divorce or loss who are still stuck in the past and can’t see a future for themselves. 

They want  to have clarity about what to do, discover their art and have a plan to move forward. 

They want to release the old and start the new. 

I was stuck in the past for way too long after my own divorce. I had no idea what to do with my life. 

Although we both thought we would be together for life, life had other plans.

First, we blamed our relationship problems on the fact that we were living long-distance – her in India and me in California.

Then we thought our professional pursuits (a lawyer and a doctor – an Indian parent’s dream) was the problem. 

Next, we moved away from California to a place where we both hardly knew anyone and had little support.

Our marriage had so many ups and downs but never survived the infamous 7th year – at which point we found ourselves separating, living apart and, ultimately, divorcing.

After my own divorce, nothing made sense. I questioned everything. I lost my place in the world and didn’t know who I was anymore.

I experienced the deepest pain, loss and rejection during this time. 

It took years to let go of the past and rebuild my life. Much of the time, I regretted the relationship had ended and wanted it back in my life. I felt guilty for it ending and took a brunt of the blame. 

I also didn’t know what to do with my life. I knew I couldn’t be a lawyer any longer but didn’t know what I wanted. 

To let go of the past, I had to do the deep inner work with counselors, coaches, teachers and within me. I read Eckhart Tolle. I developed my own process for letting go that I teach people. 

To figure out what to do with my life, I read the Alchemist which changed everything. I also went through the CTI coach training program once it became clearer that I wanted to coach people in similar situations. 

I got out of law practice and became a community organizer for social justice. I started writing books and fulfilling a life-long dream. I started coaching. 

Today, I’m living in alignment and living in purpose. I transitioned out of work and a life that wasn’t suiting me to create the life I wanted.

I write, coach, travel and live a spiritually rich and creative life. 

All it took was courage and clarity.

Or clarity and courage. 

I now help people others who have gone through breakups, divorces or loss find their path so they can get back on track. 

My message is to use your loss as a catalyst to live the kind of life one has always imagined for themselves  Life doesn’t end after divorce, it starts. 

At that rock bottom point is the clarity, wisdom and direction you desire. Also, motivation and inspiration to create the life you want. 

People who are more spiritual, sensitive and socially conscious tend to reach out to me for help with letting go and finding direction. 

I also share my insights and life experiences on this blog. 

After finding this blog, 19 out of 20 people: 

  • Are able to let go of their ex and their former lives for good. 
  • Tap into their spiritual nature and know who they are.
  • Find direction, meaningful work, and their life purpose
  • Feel hopeful, peaceful, positive and encouraged about their future. 

The 20th reader unfortunately moves to the Himalayas and becomes a monastic. 

I want you to sign up, learn more about the letting go process, get more direction in life and then move on with your life! 

Sign up to join me on this journey to get your life back.


What else can you tell us about yourself?

 

10 Fun Facts

I love transit lounges in airports. They remind me that everything is in transit. The best part about transit lounges (other than the people-watching) is that you get to go somewhere exciting after your transit stop. True in travel. True in life.

I love Sacramento, California, where I grew up, even though I don’t live there anymore. I love the Sacramento Kings, I love downtown where I used to practice law and had my own law office, and I love Andy Nguyen vegetarian food in midtown Sacramento.

My most rewarding work previously was as an immigration lawyer. I helped hundreds of married couples, as well as fiancé(e)s and spouses, immigrate to the United States so that they could be with their loved ones. I loved uniting families, completing love stories and bringing people together.

One song I’ve listened to more than any other song in my life is “Nobody Knows” by Tony Rich. This was the song that I listened to countless times during those college all-nighters. Ironically (or maybe not), it’s a song about a tragic breakup with lonely nights and sad days to follow.

My all-time favorite book is the epic love story in the novel One Hundred Years of Solitude, by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. This is the longest, most memorable and most impactful book I’ve ever read in my life.

Growing up, the one spiritual book that I kept returning to was the Bhagavad Gita. I was fascinated and read many chapters in this book about letting go much before I had anything to let go of. 

I married the woman I had my first date with. I also divorced the woman who I had my first date with. We are friends today.

After my divorce, I minimized my life so that all my belongings can fit into one car. I own 33 articles of clothing.

When I was in high school, I attended 2 Sunday schools – and not just on Sundays. I had prayers daily at home, temples on the weekends and pilgrimages in India over the summer. You got it – all the elements for a lifetime of therapy.

I love Chinese vegetarian food, Pokez in San Diego, roti canai, Ceylon orange pekoe tea, vanilla tart frozen yogurt, soybean milk, red bean steamed buns, tofu, at-home kirtans, church sermons, immigrants, stories of hope and overcoming adversity, resilience, justice & truth.

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