Still struggling to move on from the past relationship and hurting beyond words?

Blaming yourself for how things went, wanting to get back with your ex?

Feeling like the life and love you want is far away? 

You never expected to find yourself in a devastating divorce or breakup.

It took years to get out of bed and recover from the grief of losing the person you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with. Your entire life as you knew it shattered.

You felt shaken up and like a part of you died. Grief filled your heart with sadness and anger at your ex but mostly with yourself.

You felt abandoned and rejected, crushed and lost in life, unable to break free of your ex.

You have stood still while the rest of your life seems to pass you by.

You’re stuck but your ex and everyone else in your life has moved on and living their lives.   

You’ve tried to do everything to let go of the past and move on but the past still haunts you and you feel like you want that old relationship back!    

You feel like you’ll spend the rest of your life alone but that’s not the life that you want. 

You want to let go, move on with your life and find your own way.

You want your new life to start already! 

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Who are you?

Hi. I’m Vishnu and I want to welcome you to this sacred space on the internet where I help you let go once and for all so you can move on. 

I help people let go of the past faster, no matter how unlikely or impossible you believe that to be, so you can move on and find the love and the life you know that’s possible for you. 

If you think something is wrong with you and you will never move on, I want to welcome you.   If you’re blaming yourself and beating yourself up about this past relationship, I want to let you know that you’re in the right place.

If dating seems impossible because you’re still attached to your ex, namaste.

I never in a million years thought I would be going through a breakup and divorce.

My meeting with my ex on the internet, across the world, seemed like a fairy tale.

Our internet-turned-international romance was dreamy, romantic and made for a
Hollywood movie. 

Our wedding ceremony in India (with a thousand guests) seemed like the start of a marriage made for the heavens – one that would stand the test of time.

Although we both thought we would be together for life, life had other plans.

Like weeds, problems and challenges sprouted in our marriage.

First, we blamed our relationship problems on the fact that we were living long-distance – her in India and me in California.

Then we thought our professional pursuits (a lawyer and a doctor – an Indian parent’s dream) was the problem. 

Next, we moved away from California to a place where we both hardly knew anyone and had little support.

Our marriage had so many ups and downs but never survived the infamous 7th year – at which point we found ourselves separating, living apart and, ultimately, divorcing.

While I could shape the destiny of my clients in the courtroom, my own life spiraled out of control.

For the first time, nothing made sense. I questioned everything. I lost my place in the world and didn’t know who I was anymore.

I experienced the deepest pain, loss and rejection during my breakup and divorce.

It took years to let go of the past and rebuild my life. Much of the time, I regretted the relationship had ended and wanted it back in my life. I felt guilty for it ending and took a brunt of the blame. 

I spent years trying to understand why I was stuck and how to actually let go of my ex and the past. 

I had to go on an internal expedition to figure out why it was so hard to let go, why it was so hard to stop blaming myself and why it was so hard to move on. 

I experimented, read, practiced, meditated, got counseled, got coached and did just about everything I could imagine to let go. 

This blog is a record of everything I did to let go. The good news is after years of trying, I woke up one day and everything made sense. 

I was on the final ritual of letting go and my life became freer, happier and more peaceful. 

I figured out the secrets to letting go in the form of 7 letting go rituals. 

I began to think that people didn’t have to spend years letting go. They could do this within months or less! 

Was this some kind of miracle formula? I have no idea but I started coaching people and they felt better much faster than before.

I don’t want to waste your time and I don’t want you to stay on this blog forever. I want you to sign up and hear more about my coaching that will help you let go.  

If you’re stuck and tired, I can help you let go faster and move on quicker from that relationship that is still holding you back.

I want to give you your life back. 

You can stay stuck for years or decades of your life or you can get started on the process of letting go and moving one. 

When you sign up below, you’re embarking on a journey to start on your path to love and a new life. 

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What else can you tell us about yourself?

 

10 Fun Facts

I love transit lounges in airports. They remind me that everything is in transit. The best part about transit lounges (other than the people-watching) is that you get to go somewhere exciting after your transit stop. True in travel. True in life.

I love Sacramento, California, where I grew up, even though I don’t live there anymore. I love the Sacramento Kings, I love downtown where I used to practice law and had my own law office, and I love Andy Nguyen Vietnamese vegan food in midtown Sacramento.

My most rewarding work previously was as an immigration lawyer. I helped hundreds of married couples, as well as fiancé(e)s and spouses, immigrate to the United States so that they could be with their loved ones. I loved uniting families, completing love stories and bringing people together.

One song I’ve listened to more than any other song in my life is “Nobody Knows” by Tony Rich. This was the song that I listened to countless times during those college all-nighters. Ironically (or maybe not), it’s a song about a tragic breakup with lonely nights and sad days to follow.

My all-time favorite book is the epic love story in the novel One Hundred Years of Solitude, by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. This is the longest, most memorable and most impactful book I’ve ever read.

Growing up, the one spiritual book that I kept returning to was the Bhagavad Gita. I was fascinated and read many chapters in this book about letting go much before I had anything to let go of. 

I married the woman I had my first date with. I also divorced the woman who I had my first date with. We are friends today.

After my divorce, I minimized my life so that all my belongings can fit into one car. I own 33 articles of clothing.

When I was in high school, I attended 2 Sunday schools – and not just on Sundays. I had prayers daily at home, temples on the weekends and pilgrimages in India over the summer. You got it – all the elements for a lifetime of therapy.

I love Chinese vegetarian food, Pokez in San Diego, roti canai, Ceylon orange pekoe black tea, vanilla tart frozen yogurt, soybean milk, red bean steamed buns, tofu of any kind, at-home kirtans, church sermons, immigrants, stories of hope and adversity, resilience, justice & truth.

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