Feel like moving to the Himalayas?

Feel like giving up on dating and relationships and life?

Still struggling to move on from your breakup or divorce?

You never in a million years thought you’d be on this blog. 

Then again, you likely never imagined going through this life-crushing divorce or breakup!

This past relationship was for life. Why didn’t your ex get the memo. 

They may have even moved on and living their best life while you’re stuck, angry, a little drunk most days and reading blogs on letting go. 

It took months and years to get out of bed and face your reality. You tried to hide from your friends and family for as long as you could be you finally had to face them and face your life. 

You felt shaken up and like a part of you died. Grief filled your heart with sadness and anger at your ex but mostly with yourself.

You felt abandoned and rejected, crushed and lost in life, unable to break free of your ex.

You’ve tried Eat Pray Love, drank a lot of Merlot, listened to a lot of Adele and spent way too many days in Vipasana retreats but you can’t seem to shake your ex. 

You just can’t seem to move on. You hate yourself for even wanting that old relationship back. You’d take one day of normalcy for the 1000 days of uncertainty you’ve experienced. 

It’s not even that you really want your ex but life made sense when they were in your life. Now, you don’t know who you are, what you want and where you’re going. Life is filled with reality TV and yoga or watching reality TV while doing yoga. 

You want to let go, move on with your life and find peace and fulfillment again.

You want your new life to start already! 

You’re not sure how you ended up here but since you’re already here, might as well get get on the Vishnu train. 


Who are you?

Hi. I’m Vishnu but I’m no guru or divine reincarnation of any sort. 

My meeting with my ex on the internet, across the world, seemed like a fairy tale.

Our internet-turned-international romance was dreamy, romantic and made for a
Hollywood Bollywood movie. 

Our wedding ceremony in India (with a thousand guests) seemed like the start of a marriage made for the heavens – one that would stand the test of time.

Although we both thought we would be together for life, life had other plans.

Like weeds, problems and challenges sprouted in our marriage.

First, we blamed our relationship problems on the fact that we were living long-distance – her in India and me in California.

Then we thought our professional pursuits (a lawyer and a doctor – an Indian parent’s dream) was the problem. 

Next, we moved away from California to a place where we both hardly knew anyone and had little support.

Our marriage had so many ups and downs but never survived the infamous 7th year – at which point we found ourselves separating, living apart and, ultimately, divorcing.

While I could shape the destiny of my clients in the courtroom, my own life spiraled out of control.

For the first time, nothing made sense. I questioned everything. I lost my place in the world and didn’t know who I was anymore.

I experienced the deepest pain, loss and rejection during my breakup and divorce.

It took years to let go of the past and rebuild my life. Much of the time, I regretted the relationship had ended and wanted it back in my life. I felt guilty for it ending and took a brunt of the blame. 

I spent years trying to understand why I was stuck and how to actually let go of my ex and the past. 

I had to go on an internal expedition to figure out why it was so hard to let go, why it was so hard to stop blaming myself and why it was so hard to move on. 

I experimented, read, practiced, meditated, got counseled, got coached and did just about everything I could imagine to let go. 

This blog is a record of everything I did to let go. The good news is after years of working on letting go, I woke up one day and everything made sense.

My life became freer, happier and more peaceful. 

I began to think that people didn’t have to spend as long as I did to let go. They could do this much sooner if they knew what it would take to let go.  

Was this some kind of life secret? I have no idea but I started coaching people and they started moving on and letting go much quicker.  They start creating brand new lives for themselves. 

I don’t want to waste your time and I don’t want you to stay on this blog forever.

Before this blog, people feel trapped by their past, feel like failures and can’t see a future for themselves. 

After finding me, 19 out of 20 people: 

  • Are able to let go of their ex and start meeting new people again.
  • Tap into their spiritual nature and know who they are.
  • Find direction, meaningful work, and their life purpose
  • Feel hopeful, peaceful, positive and encouraged about their future. 

The 20th reader unfortunately moves to the Himalayas and becomes a monastic. 

I want you to sign up, learn more about the letting go process, get more direction in life and then move on with your life! 

Sign up to join me on this journey to get your life back.


What else can you tell us about yourself?

 

10 Fun Facts

I love transit lounges in airports. They remind me that everything is in transit. The best part about transit lounges (other than the people-watching) is that you get to go somewhere exciting after your transit stop. True in travel. True in life.

I love Sacramento, California, where I grew up, even though I don’t live there anymore. I love the Sacramento Kings, I love downtown where I used to practice law and had my own law office, and I love Andy Nguyen vegetarian food in midtown Sacramento.

My most rewarding work previously was as an immigration lawyer. I helped hundreds of married couples, as well as fiancé(e)s and spouses, immigrate to the United States so that they could be with their loved ones. I loved uniting families, completing love stories and bringing people together.

One song I’ve listened to more than any other song in my life is “Nobody Knows” by Tony Rich. This was the song that I listened to countless times during those college all-nighters. Ironically (or maybe not), it’s a song about a tragic breakup with lonely nights and sad days to follow.

My all-time favorite book is the epic love story in the novel One Hundred Years of Solitude, by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. This is the longest, most memorable and most impactful book I’ve ever read in my life.

Growing up, the one spiritual book that I kept returning to was the Bhagavad Gita. I was fascinated and read many chapters in this book about letting go much before I had anything to let go of. 

I married the woman I had my first date with. I also divorced the woman who I had my first date with. We are friends today.

After my divorce, I minimized my life so that all my belongings can fit into one car. I own 33 articles of clothing.

When I was in high school, I attended 2 Sunday schools – and not just on Sundays. I had prayers daily at home, temples on the weekends and pilgrimages in India over the summer. You got it – all the elements for a lifetime of therapy.

I love Chinese vegetarian food, Pokez in San Diego, roti canai, Ceylon orange pekoe tea, vanilla tart frozen yogurt, soybean milk, red bean steamed buns, tofu, at-home kirtans, church sermons, immigrants, stories of hope and overcoming adversity, resilience, justice & truth.

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