Can’t let go of your past and your ex no matter how much you try? 

Still blaming yourself and feeling guilty about the relationship ending? 

Not sure how to get closure, heal your heart and move on for good?  

You are devastated that this relationship ended. You thought they were your soulmate and your happily ever after. 

They may even have moved on with someone they met recently on a tropical island while you’re devastated, angry, and reading blogs on heartbreak.  

You’ve tried Eat Pray Love, drank Merlot by the gallons, listened to  Adele on repeat, and spent way too many days blaming yourself and wanting to get back with your ex. 

Your life may have been rocked by an unwanted and unexpected breakup or divorce. You blame yourself for the breakup even if your ex who is the one who destroyed the relationship. 

You’re feeling stuck in the past and like a failure for how your life turned out. You’re filled with rage at your ex and angry at yourself. They destroyed your self-esteem and now you have to figure out how to get out of this mess.  

I coach people who are stuck in their past and struggling to let go of their past relationship. I help them forgive themselves and rebuild their self-worth so they can find closure and move on with their lives. 

I’m not a therapist who works with people for years or delves into deep-rooted psychological issues. I don’t believe that you can simply let go mentally. I use mental, emotional, and spiritual tools that have worked for me and the people that I work with to help you let go in your body, mind and soul. 

After finding this blog, 19 out of 20 people: 

  • Are able to make peace and find closure with their breakup
  • Let go of excruciating guilt and self-blame  
  • Able to rebuild their self-worth and remove the large emotional block that’s keeping them stuck in the past. 
  • Feel hopeful about the future and can move forward positively  

The 20th reader, unfortunately, moves to the Himalayas and becomes a monastic. 

You’re not sure how you ended up here but since you’re here, might as well join me on a journey to peace and clarity. Sign up below. 

Who are you?

Hi. I’m Vishnu but no guru or Hindu God. 

I was stuck in the past for way too long after my own divorce, devastated, and blaming myself for my marriage ending.

It took years to let go of this pain, sadness, and abandonment of divorce.  I  was angry at myself for how I showed up in the relationship and filled with guilt. I wanted to be back in the relationship and didn’t know how to move forward. 

To move on, I had to do the deep inner work of healing, grieving and letting go so I could rebuild my life and have peace again.     

I spent years trying to figure out what it took to let go. As I was searching, I learned every step about what it took to let go. I help people identify the strong emotional blocks that are keeping them from moving on with their lives and help them release it. 

You don’t have to stay stuck in the past for years. Since you found me, I’m going to make sure you get your life back and not allow your ex to steal even more years of your life.  I’m going to help you let go and find peace and happiness again as much as you feel like giving up and quitting on your growth journey. 

I have a simple message: you can let go of your ex, move on, and find peace and freedom again. The life that’s possible for you is waiting on the other side of letting go.   

Let’s work together to let go your ex completely and start the new life that’s waiting for you.  No more waiting endlessly, thinking you’ll wake up one day and be ok. No more holding on to that one thing keeping your life stuck in the old relationship. 

People who are more spiritual, introverted, sensitive, and compassionate tend to reach out to me for help with letting go and moving on from their breakup. Also if you’ve tried every other thing and still feel the heavy emotional block keeping you stuck, please reach out. 

Sign up below if you’re ready to move on and get your life back.  Sign up today if you don’t want to waste even more years of your life being stuck in the past.   

What else can you tell us about yourself?


10 Fun Facts

I love transit lounges in airports. They remind me that everything is in transit. The best part about transit lounges (other than the people-watching) is that you get to go somewhere exciting after your transit stop. True in travel. True in life.

I love Sacramento, California, where I grew up, even though I don’t live there anymore. I love the Sacramento Kings, I love downtown where I used to practice law and had my own law office, and I love Andy Nguyen vegetarian food in midtown Sacramento.

My most enjoyable work previously was as a divorce lawyer. I helped dozens of families go through the divorce process. I heard from clients that our legal appointments were some of the most transformative. Imagine that – peace and relief at your lawyer’s office !?! It inspired me to coach people through breakups and divorces. 

One song I’ve listened to more than any other song in my life is “Nobody Knows” by Tony Rich. This was the song that I listened to countless times during those college all-nighters. Ironically (or maybe not), it’s a song about a tragic breakup with lonely nights and sad days to follow.

My all-time favorite book is the epic love story in the novel One Hundred Years of Solitude, by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. This is the most memorable and most impactful book I’ve ever read in my life. The Power of Now is second and the Alchemist is third. 

Growing up, the one spiritual book that I kept returning to was the Bhagavad Gita. I was fascinated and read many chapters in this book about letting go much before I had anything to let go of. Later, I became a fan of Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now. 

I married the woman I had my first date with. I also divorced the woman who I had my first date with. We are friends today.

After my divorce, I minimized my life so that all my belongings can fit into one car. I own 33 articles of clothing. I believe in minimalism and simplicity. 

When I was in high school, I attended 2 Sunday schools – and not just on Sundays. I had prayers daily at home, temples on the weekends and pilgrimages to India every summer. You got it – all the elements for a lifetime of therapy.

I love Chinese vegetarian food, Pokez in San Diego, roti canai, Ceylon orange pekoe tea, vanilla tart frozen yogurt, soybean milk, red bean steamed buns, tofu, at-home kirtans, church sermons, immigrants, stories of hope and overcoming adversity, resilience, justice & truth.

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