10 Tips To Survive Divorce Charmingly Well

You don’t have to merely survive divorce if you’re going through one.

You definitely won’t be surviving divorce if you did divorce the charmed divorce way.

Leah Scott and Robin Sassi, bloggers and authors over at Charmed Divorce, wrote a book in 2017 that I’ve been reading over the years whenever I needed a shot of inspiration or a good laugh.

This book is like having a couple girl-friends giving you divorce advice over a glass of wine.

You’ll cry, you’ll laugh, and possibly forget you’re going through a divorce by the time you finish this book.

Interestingly, the two women start and end the book with the two words, “Get Laid”.

Now, this is in no way a sex book of any kind but the authors do stress the importance of sex in the first and last page of the book.

This is one sure way to have a charmed divorce, right? Lots of sex?!

Here are their other 10 tips on surviving your divorce charmingly well from the book Charmed Divorce.

10 ways to survive divorce charmingly well.

1. Taking care of yourself.

“How your body feels affects the way your mind operates and positive body conditioning is good for the soul. Working on yourself from the outside in is a way to feel good inside out.”

One of things that both women encourage is taking care of yourself and treating yourself well in divorce. They suggest an hour a day of self –care for your body, mind and soul. They say it’s time do whatever it takes to feel good even if you might be feeling lousy.

2. Appreciate the small stuff.

“With all the changes you are going through, life can appear overwhelming and unstable. Appreciating the small things will make the big things less daunting. Remember: small things. By small, we mean miniscule.”

They encourage showing appreciation for all the small things that are going right in your life. Remind yourself how good you have it. You may not be able to control the bigger things in your life but replace that with the tiny joy of everyday life.

3. Get through the hard stuff.

“Cry, stomp, rage, scream. Do these things and then be done with it. It is only when you process those emotions that you can move on with the right attitude. What is that attitude? You can get through this.”

You don’t have to run away from the hard stuff. Divorce will be the hardest thing you will be going through emotionally. Feel your feelings and experience the emotions to survive divorce. The women promise you that it does get better after you get through.

4. Declutter your life.

“Clutter that piles up in your mind will make it difficult to think clearly. It’s time to take inventory of your house and your mind. This will help you create your new life and new space. “

Decluttering will help you with the letting go process. First, clean out the physical stuff and then work on the mental stuff that is occupying your mind. Having less stuff will help you get more productive and feel more relaxed. You can fill your physical space and your mind with the things that bring you happiness.

5. Stay open-minded to new experiences.

“Make a list of things that you have thought about trying but never felt you had the time for. It could be a new type of food, class or social group.”

To get out of the rut of an unfulfilling marriage, try experiment and doing new things. The women suggest getting out of your comfort zone. Explore parts of yourself that were lying dormant. It’s time to live it up with adventure and change of routine.

6. Discover what you want to do with your life

“What better time than to start something new whether it’s a business idea, a new way of eating or exercising, or that craft you were always so good at making. ”

Be creative and explore what you’re passionate about in life. Reconsider if you’re career is something you enjoy doing or is it time to try something else. Consider starting that new business you had in mind. Try out different things that you feel drawn toward and start living a more passionate life. You are now free to.

7. Exercising bravery 

“The fear you may feel come from anticipating the world without a partner. This is where you learn to be brave and discover that being alone is not the end of the world.”

They remind you that you’re going to have to find the courage to live a braver life. You’re going to have to do a whole bunch of things you don’t feel like doing after the marriage ends. This takes conscious effort, determination, and continually showing up for difficult and challenging situations.

8. Discover yourself

“This is the time to ‘date’ yourself. It’s time to take yourself to a movie, out to eat, or to some other event – alone.”

You need alone time post divorce to get to know yourself more. Only when you know yourself can you go forward and be in a better and healthier relationship. They recommend taking yourself out, eating and watching movies alone, to get to know yourself better.

9. Celebrate

“A ‘just divorced’ party is the celebration of the conclusion of the legal process of your divorce…Completing the divorce is a great reason to celebrate.”

You’ve reached a milestone and may have been stressed for the past few months or years while you survived divorce. No better way to celebrate, enjoy with friends and have a party!

10. Have great sex ?!

“It is time to enjoy your new life. What better way than to have some great sex? So go on, and get laid! You deserve the attention and pleasure.”

As I mentioned the women, start and end the book with this tip so there’s probably something to it. They recommend this because they say it’s time to start enjoying your new life. You deserve the attention and the pleasure.

The two authors have put a positive spin on the D-word in this book, Charmed Divorce. The women say that a charmed divorce is enjoying your new life post divorce, being strong and keeping a smile on your fact. They did it and remind you that you can too.

If you’re going through a divorce, do yourself a favor and pick up Charmed Divorce in the Amazon store today. You don’t have to simply survive divorce.  You can get through it charmingly well.

15 Self-Love Quotes from the Most Important Instagram Acccount on the Internet Today

I don’t have much time for Instagram or much other social media these days.

I may drop in occasionally but one of the primary reasons that I check in on Instagram is for one of the most important Instagram accounts out there.

I love this Instagram account by Mark Groves.

It’s not just because he’s regularly dropping truth bombs on his Instagram account but I’m calling this the most important account out there because of WHAT he’s talking about.

Mark’s teachings and message help us get more in touch with ourselves emotionally to heal the wounds within and love ourselves and others more.

There is no more important work than that today.

Follow this account and hey, while you’re there, follow his blog. It will change every aspect of your life, but most importantly the relationship you have with yourself.

15 Mark Groves quotes for self-love from the most important Instagram account on the Internet

1. “When we don’t ask for what we want, we don’t get it.” Mark Groves

2. “You are worthy of the kind of love you showed yourself by walking away.” Mark Groves

3. “When choosing a partner, choose based on something so much more than just attraction. Look for kindness. Look for respect. Look for willingness to be wrong. And then be those things yourself so they can find you too.” Mark Groves

4. “Don’t hold things that require a tight grip. Including thoughts, expectations and even people.” Mark Groves

5. “When you say no to people who don’t show up for you, you not only honor your value, you raise it.” Mark Groves

6. “I think the problem is we depend on lovers to love us the way we should love ourselves.”

7. “If it doesn’t open your door, it’s not your door.”

8. “Nothing meant to be in your life will ever require you to abandon yourself to keep it.”

9. “The choices you make are far more powerful than what you say you desire. Choice determines path, and path determines who you’ll meet. You must become what you seek.” Mark Groves

10. “Time only heals if we do something with that time.” Mark Groves

11. “Sometimes our growth takes us beyond certain people. Often the key to honoring that growth is to let them go.” Mark Groves

12. “There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.” Mark Groves

13. “I’ve found that growing up means being honest. About what I want. What I need. What I feel. Who I am.”

14. “It’s in the space between the love we’ve lost and the love we hop to find, where we meet ourselves.” Mark Groves

15. “Sometimes it takes losing what we were settling for to remind us what we deserve.”

If you found these Mark Groves quotes inspiring, check out his Instagram account here, his Podcast here and his Youtube channel here

10 Common Beliefs About Love After a Breakup

love after a breakupIs love after a breakup even possible?

After a serious and committed relationship ends, you begin to have weird thoughts swirling through your mind about the future.

First comes the hurt and the pain of having gone through a breakup.

Then comes the blame towards yourself, your ex and others that caused the breakup.

Finally, comes the sad and lonely thoughts about your future, along with your fears that you will never love again after a breakup.

I can personally attest to many of these common beliefs that came in and out of my life after my divorce.

I think the belief that I held about the future was that I would be alone again for the rest of my life and that no one would ever love me again.

It’s at points like that you begin to ask yourself what’s the point of living and what’s the point of life?

Thankfully, I’ve come a long way since then.

I realize that many of the beliefs that I developed post-breakup came from a place of grief yet it took me years to overcome them.

Our mind has a way of playing tricks on us and leading us to dramatic and untrue spaces of thought.

Here are some of the most common beliefs that went through my mind as I thought about finding love after a breakup.

These might be thoughts that are whirling around your mind too.

Please read, reflect and let me know which ones resonate the most with you.

All you have to do is hit reply to this email and fill me in.

Of course, if you’re not on the email list, please get on it!

10 Common Beliefs About Love After a Breakup

1. I will never find love again and be alone forever.

Just because one person ended the relationship with you, you believe that you won’t find someone and be alone the rest of your life.

You think love will pass you by and you’ll spend the rest of your life by yourself, withering away into oblivion and dying a peaceful death surrounded by loyal furry friends.

2. No one will like me or love me again.

Since your ex didn’t like you and fell out of love in you, you believe the other 7 billion people in the world are also going to dismiss you for the terrible person you are.

Love only happens once in your life. It happened. Now, it’s over and you will be living in solitude for several more decades.

You had your one shot at love and it didn’t work out.

3. No one will accept me once they see the real me.

You got to know someone, spend years with them and were in a relationship with them.

Since you believe that something is wrong with you and you scared your ex away, you believe that you will scare everyone else away too.

Once people get to know the real you, they will run for the hills.

There is something permanently damaged about you that no one can accept you for who you are once they get to know you.

4. I am permanently broken

Once again, your relationship ending with your ex will help you see that you have issues. Serious ones that you developed since a child or through other life trauma.

You’ll realize that you’re permanently broken or there is something so flawed with you that no one will want you ever again.

This is not a temporary condition. You were cursed from birth to be broken and unlovable.

Well…there’s always the next life.

5. There are no good people out there.

You take all your previous relationships and all of your recent bad dates to conclude there is absolutely no good people out there.

Everyone is a deadbeat, a dud or a deadbeat dud.

Why even bother dating when people are bad, unavailable, uninterested, boring, evil…

6. I will repeat the mistakes of the past.

You made many mistakes in this past relationship which you hold yourself solely responsible for.

You ruined a perfectly good relationship with a perfectly good person.

You feel like you’re an immature, unworthy, cruel person who causes massive pain and hurt to the people they love.

7. I will choose the wrong person again

You made a mistake in choosing your previous partner. You are pretty much guaranteed to pick someone just as bad the next time around.

Since you did such a poor choice of choosing someone compatible, you believe that you’re going to draw someone into your life who’s just as lousy and bad for you.

8. If I don’t know myself, how could I know what I want in a partner?

After the tsunami of a breakup, you have lost a sense of self, a sense of purpose and a sense of being.

You don’t even know who you are and what you want out of you life.

You’re so lost, how could you possibly be clear on who you’re looking for in a partner?

9. I don’t want go through heartbreak again.

You’ve been through it once and it was more unpleasant than a visit to the dentist.

You cried in bed for months, never went out in public and felt like digging a deep hole and hiding out in it for years.

You’ve experienced serious heartbreak and similar to heart attacks and getting your wisdom teeth pulled, once is enough.

10. I don’t want to feel unworthy again.

Your ex made you feel terrible about yourself.

They made you question your self-worth and your confidence.

You felt so terrible about yourself as a person that you would never let anyone do this to you again by having another love after a breakup.

So you’re going to have super-high walls around your heart and make sure that getting to your heart is going to be 80 times harder than getting tickets to the next Hamilton show.

You would rather push people away, hide from people and make people angry at you than allowing someone to get close enough to you to make you feel unworthy.

To find love after a breakup, pick up my book, Love After Heartbreak, here.

Which of these beliefs most resonate with you? I would like to hear from you via email about your own experiences, thoughts and beliefs after a breakup. 

The One Person Who Must Accept You

Wouldn’t it be easier if it was other people’s responsibility to accept us and love us?

We just coast through life being loved and appreciated by someone else.

It would be nice but not very realistic. More importantly, it would be putting the work of loving and accepting you in other people’s hands.

Watch more to learn Kajal’s take in this follow up video.

Kajal Pandey is a transformational life coach and truth teacher. She has an excellent meditation class you can pick up here. Learn more about her work on her website at www.kajalpandey.com and follow her on Instagram here.

Your Ex Didn’t Do You Like This

I think the problem is that we depend on our loves to love us the way we should love ourselves.” Unknown

You blame your ex.

You believe your ex may have been the devil incarnate.

You believe your ex ruined your life and treated you worse than the worst person you’ve met today.

Why couldn’t they have loved you the way you wanted to be loved!?!

Isn’t that a partner’s job?

To love you unconditionally, without judgment and without hurting you?

Is that so much to ask?

Not really, except it wasn’t your ex who did you like this for you to blame your ex.

It wasn’t your ex who treated you badly first.

It wasn’t your ex who loved you badly first.

It’s easy to blame everything on your ex and consider him to be the bogeyman.

However, more likely than not, it wasn’t your ex who did you wrong.

Let’s go back in time.

When I was growing up, the people who mistreated me more than I could have imagined were my parents.

I doubt they did this maliciously or intentionally but without question, the way my parents spoke to me, punished me and disciplined me had a lot to do with how I turned out.

Now, before you jump ahead here, the point of this story isn’t to blame our parents, as much as we’d like to do that.

Our parents and families set the standard of what love looks like but…they royally screwed it up for many of us.

Your parents create the terrible soil for you to grow in: 

  • Your parents likely spoke badly to you.
  • They criticized you unfairly and held you to impossible standards.
  • They likely insulted your intelligence
  • Made you feel unworthy
  • They must have sinned in a previous life to have given life to you (hey Indian parents!).

If it wasn’t your parents, it was your family.

If it wasn’t your family, other influences in your life made you treat yourself badly.

So, you inherited this problem that showed up later in your marriage and your spouse didn’t help with it.

They just made it worse.

Remember, your ex is the mirror.

If you showed up with low self-worth, your ex amplified it.

If you showed up with low self-esteem, your spouse took advantage of it.

If you showed up with self-loathing, you felt worse when your spouse pushed your buttons.

The problem stemmed from the conditions you grew up in and the people who were supposed to have loved you right.

But the solution is up to you to find.

How sad and tragic that we have to fix the way other people hurt us?

What’s up with that?

Our partners were our mirrors, showing us just how much we didn’t love ourselves.

They were not the cause so why blame your ex?

Now it’s our job to figure this out.

How do we forgive the people who hurt us and forgive the people who didn’t love us like we were supposed to have been loved?

How do we then learn to love ourselves the way we want to be loved?

Blaming your ex and others for not loving us correctly is easy. Taking responsibility for our healing and our loving is hard.

Yet this is without question the hardest work that we have to do, especially coming back from a breakup or divorce.

The greatest factor in changing the way we look at ourselves, treat ourselves and deal with ourselves is how much we care for and love ourselves.

I’ve discovered that all our interpersonal successes, all our emotional and physical successes, all our achievements and worldly successes come down to this one thing.

So, let’s stop putting the responsibility squarely on our exes.

Don’t blame your ex. Let’s not blame your family either. They carried their own wounds and hurts from generations before.

Let’s find a way to accept and love ourselves.

Do you still blame your ex for the way they treated you? Are you angry at those people who didn’t love you like they were supposed to?

Hit reply and let me know. If you’re not on the email list, please get on it.

Also, pick up my books on self-love at the Amazon store here.

Your Ex Was the Mirror

“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?” Rumi

It was the holidays.

It was the New Year.

It was just Valentine’s day.

When do we ever start the diet?

I think of myself as relatively healthy and swim a couple times a week.

Unfortunately it’s the carbs (&*$%#@@!* Indian food) and sweets (pies, cakes and candy bars) that are my downfall.

No matter how much I tried to avoid these things, I feel they are a constant and comfortable presence in my life. They constantly contribute to the additional 10 pounds of weight that I can do without.

Now, how many of us survive the holidays and stuff ourselves with all delicacies and then find ourselves in the new year resolving to eat less and be healthier?

How many times do you look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself in a dramatic tone, “why ….why did you do this? Why did you indulge and wallop those savory gulab jamuns and sweet potato pies !!!”

How many times do you avoid looking at the mirror when you walk into the bathroom ?

How many times have you thought to yourself that you only want to look at yourself after you’re back to your ideal weight?

Maybe I’m oversharing here but the additional 10 pounds of weight – the “comfort pounds” as I’ll now start referring to them as are visibly more apparent when I look at myself in the mirror.

I wouldn’t usually notice this weight (trick here is to regularly buy oversized pants and shirts J so you’ll never notice when your weight creeps up by a few pounds here and there).

Anyway, where were we?

Oh yeah, looking at mirrors.

I wouldn’t notice this weight…except…

when looking at myself shaving or brushing my teeth, looking into the mirror.

I would notice my eating habits, my love for that cocaine like substance, sugar, and the additional comfort pounds that are now part of my life.

The Notorious B.I.G used  to say “Mo money, mo problems” but let me venture to say…

More mirror, more problems.

Which now brings me to a topic that I touched on last week.

How to recognize our past blame at our ex’s and start shifting of responsibilities back to ourselves.

I talked about how to stop blaming our ex’s and taking responsibility for our lives if we wanted to move on.

While we do need to end the blame game, your ex was helpful in one way.

Your ex was the mirror to yourself.

Your ex helped show where the flaws and spider webs were.

Your ex helped show you what needed a fix-up, a touch-up or a complete make-over.

You likely hated every minute that you were shown these flaws because this space is uncomfortable and unpleasant.

Yet instead of looking at this as something to work on or improve, you likely got angry and frustrated with your ex.

You likely demonized them and wondered what was wrong with them.

You likely told all your friends and family that you were being tortured and couldn’t handle the nastiness of the relationship.

It was our flaws but we made the person in the mirror responsible, not realizing that we were ultimately the ones in the mirror.

No point beating up ourselves about this now.

You can’t change the past.

You can reflect on it.

You can inquire about what were the things you missed looking in the mirror.

You can take responsibility for it.

You can get to work on improving those things.

I’m going to share what one of the biggest shortcomings/flaws that our ex’s mirrored back to us next week.

In the meantime, what did your ex show you about yourself?

What did you need to work on?

What are your skeletons?

What did you see in the mirror?

Hit reply and let me know.

And of course, if you’re not on the V-team email list, get on it please 🙂 

The Biggest Lesson I Learned From My Divorce

biggest lesson

It was all her fault.

She was so difficult, challenging and uncompromising.

She couldn’t give in, not even an inch.

So many of these thoughts swirled through my mind as I squarely placed the blame for my divorce on my ex.

When the marriage ended, my blame meter was supercharged.

If she had just changed, everything would have been ok.

If she had been just a little more forgiving or a little more respectful or a little more accommodating, we could have made it work.

I was angry with her not only for the marriage’s end but for the way she showed up in the marriage.

I felt she had so many problems and I simply couldn’t fix them.

What a difference 7 years makes!

My journey to coming to terms with my divorce and moving on came down to one very basic and profound lesson about love, relationships and life.

Ready?

It has nothing to do with anyone else.

Let me repeat: Your journey and your growth and your happiness have little to do with other people.

Your partners and spouses are simply mirrors of whom you really are.

All the issues you find in your ex have more to do with you than with them.

I know.

You don’t agree.

I don’t want to agree.

I want to fight this notion and I did fight it for years.

Until the epiphany one day: What if it was me?

What???

How sacrilegious of me to say this!

How disrespectful to myself!

Yet, that’s what I can ultimately share with you about my most profound experience from divorce.

It really had nothing, or very little, to do with the other person.

(I understand that in some situations, the other person is violent or abusive, or has serious underlying issues. In such cases, that person is responsible.)

Those of us who get divorced are on the high-speed train to inner growth, spiritual growth and wisdom. But ….

only if we let that happen.

This can start only when we take the blame off the other person and focus on ourselves.

Let’s say you don’t quite agree and are intent on convincing me that the other person was the one at fault.

Your ex cheated on you, was mentally or emotionally abusive towards you, left you…

Even in these cases, I’m suggesting that those are things you have very little control over.

You CANNOT change, correct or fix your ex or anyone else in your future.

You CAN make wiser and smarter decisions about whom you choose to be with.

And…you can try to figure out what issues you brought to the table, how you dealt with your ex and what you can do differently.

This was my biggest lesson. It doesn’t have to be yours.

If you strongly blame your ex and believe your ex is at fault, fine.

You can let it be but you may be robbing yourself of the opportunity to take responsibility, do your own inner work and improve your own life.

If you’re ready to move past the blame game and holding your ex responsible for everything that happened in the past, it’s time to get honest about some of the questions you’re asking yourself.

  • How could you have shown up differently in the relationship?
  • How did you make things worse for you or your ex in your relationship?
  • How could you have handled things differently in your past relationship?
  • What are your triggers and shortcomings when it comes to relationships?
  • What kind of help or tools do you need going forward?
  • What are the lessons and insights your former guru, your ex, was able to leave you with?
  • What are you still angry about?
  • What are you still resenting?
  • What are the things you need to forgive and let go of?
  • Who are you becoming with this self-awareness, knowledge and insight about yourself?

The longer you hold onto the blame, the longer it’ll take for you to move on.

This doesn’t happen overnight or immediately.

It took me several years to go from blaming my ex to slapping myself in the face and realizing that I was the one who had the issues!

Again, she may have had issues too but it wasn’t my job to fix them. I don’t have the tools to help her solve her issues, triggers and shortcomings.

All I could have done was point them out to her and all she could have done was the same.

If you’re resisting what I’m saying, I get it.

It took me the better part of a decade to get here.

It’s so much easier to blame and shift responsibility.

It’s convenient and comfortable to feel like nothing is wrong with you and that you brought no issues to the table.

It doesn’t require us to do any work or take any action yet we are losing the self-growth and insight that accepting responsibility fosters.

Have you taken responsibility for your past relationship? Did you play a role in the deterioration of your marriage or relationship?

I’m curious to hear what you have to say. Drop me a line and reply to my email.

If you’re not getting emails, sign up for my weekly messages so we can communicate.

Happy 2019, all – this is our year!

How to Improve Your Relationship With Yourself

Kajal Pandey, Transformational life coach and truth teacher

I hope you enjoy this video above and the important questions Kajal asks us to ask ourselves in order to improve the relationship we have with ourselves.

I had also asked Kajal share the Dear Beloved: Love Letters to Yourself project she’s created below.

Here she is:

Three years ago in meditation an idea struck me, which was to write a love letter to myself.

Intrigued and willing, I decide to take it on as a 30 day challenge of writing daily love letters to myself. 

Writing love letters to myself daily served as a practice of loving myself, but also greatly changed my perception of myself as it allowed me to know what was really going on in my inner world and how I felt about myself. 

Inspired by that initial idea this workbook was born!

The workbook includes: 

  • 31 love letter prompts to help you understand your relationship with yourself, and actually improve it at the same time.
  • The tools of self-love that make loving yourself tangible and easy-to-do with complimentary exercises.
  • What self-love habits are and how to create your own self-love habits.
  • Affirmations as a tool to train your mind to focus on positive, life-giving thoughts about yourself.
  • A mini relationship with yourself quiz to help you get clear on where you are with yourself right now.
  • Plus bonus videos (10) on self-love topics and access to the a private facebook group to ask questions and support!

You can pick up the workbook here: https://kajalpandey.com/product/dear-beloved-workbook/

Kajal Pandey is a transformational life coach and truth teacher. She is passionate about guiding people into their inner world so they can create a life they love. She does this by teaching people how to embrace their darkness, unlearn who they think they are to remember who they really are in truth. You can learn more about here work here: http://www.kajalpandey.com

Just Because Your Love Ended Doesn’t Mean Your Love Life Has To

Just because your love ended doesn’t mean your love life has to.

You may have gone through a bad breakup, like I did.

The breakup may have knocked you down so hard, you think all kinds of unhealthy thoughts.

When my marriage ended, one of the big thoughts that swirled around my head was that no one would ever want me again.

It wasn’t just that thought.

When you’re the one who doesn’t want the breakup, you put an inordinate amount of blame on yourself.

You believe you did something wrong and that you’re not good enough.

You build toxic thoughts in your mind about all the things that are wrong with you.

You begin to believe that you’ll be alone and no one will ever love you again.

You begin to believe there’s no one out there for you.

You begin to believe that you were meant to live a solitary life of singlehood.

You turn into a ghost of a person who floats around your life, believing no one’s out there for you.

I want to take this moment to snap you out of this ghostly midnight stroll.

If you would rather be alone and don’t want a partner, no judgment here. I have nothing more to say.

But if you’re reading this and you want a partner in your life, I want you to keep a few things in mind.

* Your beliefs about relationships and partners will have an inordinate impact on your ability to find one.

* Your subconscious beliefs about relationships and partners will have an undue influence on your ability to find one.

* Your thoughts and feelings on relationships will weigh heavily on your ability to find a new one.

When I thought I would be alone and would never find a partner, I was right.

When I decided that I was tired of being alone and wanted a partner, I was right too.

Life, courtesy of the universe, brings you what you’re thinking and feeling.

You want a partner but underlying this idea are thoughts, beliefs, feelings and subconscious blocks preventing you from finding one.

To find a person you want to spend your life with, work on shedding these underlying gremlins.  

Remember, what you think about, you bring about.

Your inner emotions shape the world around you.

Your beliefs create your reality.

Ready to start  creating a new reality for yourself today? Ready to start loving anew?

Pick up my book Does True Love Exist to give you some encouragement to find love at the Amazon store today.

Before You Find Romance

Regardless of who loves you and validates you, you can’t invite romance into your life until this happens first.

Don’t believe the Hollywood hype and pop song lyrics You are not complete and whole simply because someone else loves you.  Click on the above video to watch.

For more on this topic, check out my books at the Amazon store here:

Love Yourself After Heartbreak

The Self-Romance Manifesto