Why You Can’t Let Go of Your Ex

You’ve traveled to India.

You’ve been to Italy.

Now, you’re planning a trip to Bali to fully complete this Eat, Love, Pray, adventure.

You’re trying so hard to move on and let go.

You’ve even read my book The Sacred Art of Letting Go and still wondering why you can’t let go of your ex.

This is especially hard when you’re having trouble letting go of someone who did you wrong, or cheated on you or you were in an unhealthy relationship with.

Why is it even harder to let go of your ex when they hurt you so much?

I’m going to break it down for you today on why you’re having so much difficulty and can’t let go of your ex.

Check out the video above which talk about the reasons you’re holding on to your memories and can’t let go.

Oh, I made that video for Instagram. Are you following me on Instagram? You can find a lot more regular content from me over there.

4 reasons you can’t go over your ex. 

1. What is everyone going to think about about the relationship ending.

You are so terrified about what your family, colleagues, office mates or religious community think.

You are desperately trying to stay together to show everyone that your life isn’t a complete and utter mess. A broken relationship feels like you’re airing all of your dirty laundry outside.

2. You’re not going to have a future.

You think all the good things that will come into your life have passed.

You look back at your past and believe that the past was the best your life is ever going to be.

All of your joys, celebrations, happy moments were in your past. You mistakenly believe that you can never have this again in your future.

3. No one will want to be in a relationship with you again.

This is one of the biggest reasons you can’t let go of your ex no matter how bad they were to you or how badly they did you.

You fear that you never will be in a loving relationship again. You fear that no one will ever want you again.

You fear letting go of last relationship because your battered heart doesn’t feel like it can weather another relationship.

Not only does your heart feel like it can’t handle another relationship but you start believing that you can’t attract another partner again.

The more you believe your ex’s hurtful words, the more likely you will attached to them and the less likely you will feel like getting go.

It’s counter-intuitive because they made you feel so badly about yourself and you started believing whole-heartedly what they said, that you don’t think that you can do better.

You wonder who will ever want you again?

4. There is something wrong with you.

Once again, you believed all of your ex’s words.

Your ex consistently and over time, found all your vulnerabilities and weaknesses, and used them against you.

They exploited your weaknesses so now you believe that your weaknesses are permanent.

The wounds of your past relationship are so deep, you feel like you’re scarred for life.

You believe this because it was repeated to you by someone you loved dearly.

You’re stuck because they made you believe that you were only good enough for them and not good enough for anyone else.

You were a sizzling fire before they tried to extinguish your flame.

You think you can’t let go of your ex but you can.

You can let go of your ex if you become aware of all the things that are keeping you stuck.

You’re stuck in the past because your ex’s words broke your heart and pierced your soul.

I want to assure you that happiness, love and joy are possible.

You can let go of these thoughts and feelings but I want you to know that this is going to take some work.

If you stand by the default story you’re telling yourself about the past and let time pass, you can stay here forever.

You owe it to yourself to move on.

You owe it to yourself to start on the journey of letting go.

If you’re needing some support to start on this journey, get a hold of me for some coaching. You can complete the coaching inquiry form or the contact form to contact me.