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One Way to Let Go of the Past

by Vishnu

I’m writing this from a hotel room from Chennai.

India, people, India!

I’ve had a picture about how I wanted to live my life ever since my divorce.

Before my divorce, I had this vision of a dream life that I thought was absolutely nutty.

Nutty in the sense that I never thought it would be possible.

I didn’t think I could spend my time inspiring people, write, coach, and get paid for it.

I didn’t think you could actually pursue your dream career and make it work.

I didn’t think that you could create your dream lifestyle and make that work!

My dream life is essentially to do my work around my life.

Not my life around my work.

I saw most of society putting work first and doing their life outside of the 9 to 5.

I wanted to live life between 9 to 5 and work when I felt like it.

Also, I wanted work to not feel like work.

I wanted it to be pure passion and purpose.

I made big leaps and took small steps.

I transitioned out of the legal profession.

I took a job with much more work-life balance that allowed me to prioritize writing.

I took months and years off from regular employment to build my coaching practice.

It feels like I’m finally getting there.

I’m back in Asia and doing slow travel and work from this part of the world.

Every day, my life revolves around friends and family, visiting spiritual places and meditating and trying to stay healthy. Oh and working, of course, but that happens early in the morning or late at night.

I write for this blog for people who have experienced divorce and heartbreak.

I write on Medium for people who need some motivation.

I write on Amazon and get paid when people purchase one of my books. The best way to support my work by the way is to pick up a book on Amazon (aff link).

I also am going to launch a series of courses about letting go of the past and overcoming heartbreak in the coming month.

This is the dream that I’ve been working towards for years and feels like it is finally materializing.

I work for myself and have the freedom to live my life on my own terms.

If I had looked back on the past, which I have a bad habit of doing, I would have thought about how great my legal career was and how I should have stuck to the known and certain path to financial security and career stability.

But screw that!

Here’s what happened post-divorce!

I realized how fragile life is/was.

I realized that if nightmares could come true, then for sure, dreams could come true.

I realized that life’s short.

I might as well spend the time doing what I want to do instead of what society wanted me to do.

So I envisioned a life that I wanted to life.

I saw a future life in my mind that seemed way out there but got clear about it.

And have spent the last few years moving towards that future.

It’s unfolding as we speak.

Seeing your future vividly is one way to help you let go of the heaviness of the past.

When your mind is replaying past highlights and memories, train it to see what it is you want it is you want now.

What is your vision for your life?

What does that life look like? If you’re on my email list, please reply and let me know what your dream life looks like.

If you need some support and guidance in this process, check out my coaching page here. There’s no better way to start 2020 than envisioning what it is you want out of life.