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6 Life-Changing Intentions When Someone Ghosts You

by A.G. Billig

Someone completely disappearing from your life, especially the first time, can be a terrible experience. It crushes the last ounce of self-confidence and self-esteem you have left. But when you don’t take it personally, it can be a blessing in disguise and the last step towards finding the love of your life.

It was instant chemistry, something which I had experienced only a couple of times before in my life. As we sat at the round table in the coffee shop during, sipping hot chocolate to warm up from the cold December afternoon, our bodies leaned towards each other as pulled by an invisible magnetic thread. A feeling of ease and belonging accompanied the fast beating of my heart.

He had deep blue eyes, was a vegetarian, dug conversations about energy work and aliens, and drove my favorite type of car. I was smitten, and so seemed he.

Our relationship took off this past September over the phone, while I was in the US. We would talk every day; he would always be concerned about me driving on the 405 at rush hour, or ask me if I needed money. But he would also get jealous over some of my Instagram pictures and occasionally use foul language. We had two or three fights that drained me of energy.

Nevertheless, by the time he picked me from the airport at home in November, he had gotten everything planned for our near future. We were going to spend the winter holidays together, maybe go skiing in Austria in February, visit Portugal in summer and, if all went well, buy a piece of land and build a house together.

His kisses, hugs and physical closeness felt terrific yet I felt as I was caught in a whirlwind, disconnected from my true self.

A week after my arrival, one disagreement and one new moon release ritual later, he was out of my life, no explanation or goodbye, as if he never existed.

A toothbrush, two USB sticks, and one jar of apricot jam stayed behind as silent witnesses of our deceased love story.

For almost a month, I was heartbroken.

My few attempts at getting at least closure from him led nowhere.

You can’t imagine the scenarios and questions that kept spinning in my head.

Did he really love me? And if he didn’t, why did he spend so much time waiting for me?

Maybe it was just a phase. Maybe he got cold feet or didn’t want to get hurt.

Maybe I was too much for him to handle. Perhaps he lacked the courage to call me after ghosting me, like a coward.

Perhaps I should have played harder to get.

Or not make a fuss over the fact that he had forgotten to bring me flowers for my name day.

On December 23, I messaged him on Facebook: Do you believe that Santa Claus still fulfills wishes?

He never replied.

When Christmas arrived, I decided to let him go for good. And I did. I didn’t block him on Facebook, or on my phone. I just decided that I didn’t need him to come up with an explanation and free me up to regain control over my life and heart.

As Abraham says, the people and situations in our life bring us either clarity or joy.

After the sorrow clouds started to dissipate, the post-traumatic clarity is the best moment where you can set six life-changing intentions for love and for yourself.

1. Set an intention to see the lesson instead of putting you down

The people in our life who push our buttons the hardest are a reflection of parts of us that are in the blind spot. Where did I fail to show up for myself? What was I running from? What part of did I was reject?

2. Set an intention to trust the Universe

During the Full Moon ritual I performed on December 4, I asked the Universe to remove from my life the people and situations that I no longer needed.

A couple of days later, he was gone. I had to accept that the Universe had someone better in store for me and that my ex-wasn’t part of my destiny.

3. Set an intention not to chase anyone or anything ever again.

Align with your heart’s desires so that people and circumstances flow into your life with ease and grace. It’s a lesson you believe you’ve mastered before but you always find yourself in a similar situation until you learn the lesson.

4. Set an intention to never overlook your intuition and the early red flags ever again.

I had never been able to completely trust my ex. He had a hidden face, same as the moon. He would also get angry quickly, be judgmental, say that his ex-girlfriend was crazy, and try to make me look crazy whenever he was in the wrong. My intuition also told me that had my beauty be gone overnight he would be gone, too.

5. Set an intention to heal your old wounds and let go of limiting beliefs.

The problem wasn’t him or the other men in my life, but my fear of intimacy and commitment combined with the beliefs that all men eventually failed women and I always ended up failing men.

6. Set an intention that you are worthy of having it all, and you don’t have to settle.

I deserved someone who would not only hold me tight at night but would also bring me flowers for special occasions and spoil me for no particular reason. Who would love me for who I am, just as I am.

After our forced breakup, my girlfriends told me he would come back at some point. So far, he didn’t, and I doubt he will. The reason why is that, as one of my girlfriends told me the other day, I changed something within myself.

When breakup and heartache knock at your door, don’t suffer.

Take a little time to mourn the loss of the person then be grateful for getting more clarity in your life.

Set intentions on learning the lesson, love yourself more, make decisions, and act upon them.

And not even for a second lose faith that the right one for you will show up.

Shine your beautiful light brightly so that they can see it and start their journey to you.

I guarantee you that when you finally meet and look into each other’s eyes, you will recognize each other instantly.

Are you willing to wait and use this time to become the magnificent version of yourself are or keep the place occupied and fail the test again and again?

A.G. Billig believes that love is your natural state of being. Since fear and love cannot coexist in one heart, her mission is to empower you to overcome your fears and attract the life you want with love. Pick up her Amazon best seller “I CHOOSE LOVE!”  here and learn more about her work at www.agbillig.com.