Still Stuck on Her — Even Though It’s Over?
You’ve tried to move on. Stayed busy. Gone to therapy. Numbed out.
But the past still pulls at you — the memories, the guilt, the “what ifs.”
It’s not just her you’re stuck on.
It’s who you were with her — wanted, needed, seen.
The real pain isn’t from time passing.
It’s from never getting to the core of what’s holding you hostage.
You’re not healing. You’re ruminating.
That loop is running your life.
That ends here.
This isn’t about moving on.
It’s about coming back to the man you were always meant to be.
The one who isn’t defined by guilt, pain, or fantasy.
About
Meet Vishnu – Your Divorce Recovery Coach
Hi, I’m Vishnu. I’ve been where you are — stuck, spinning, blaming myself after a marriage that collapsed despite everything.
A dream romance. A thousand-guest wedding. A perfect-on-paper life — until the cracks appeared and the marriage ended.
I lost my marriage. I lost my center. I lost myself.
It took years of deep clarity work to let go and rebuild my identity.
That’s what I help men do — not through endless talking, but through direct, emotionally grounded coaching that gets to the root fast.
Because you can’t rebuild until you’ve reclaimed the man buried beneath the pain.
You haven’t lost her. You’ve lost access to you.
Signature Coaching Offers
The Clarity Session
A 60-minute breakthrough session for men stuck in emotional loops
Understand what’s truly keeping you stuck — and start your path back to freedom.
Root Awakening
6-Week Intensive Coaching for Emotional Rebuilding
Reclaim your identity from the inside out. For men ready to stop surviving and start leading.
Weekend Resurrection
48-Hour Deep-Dive for Men Who Need a Reset — Fast
Private coaching immersion to cut the noise, end the spiral, and reconnect to the man beneath the collapse.
Frequently Asked Questions
How is this different from therapy?
This is clarity-first coaching — we go straight to what’s holding you emotionally hostage. No reliving childhood, no group hugs. Just truth.
Is this only for men?
Yes — this space is dedicated to men’s emotional clarity after divorce.
How would I know if this is for me?
This is for you if:
- You can’t stop thinking about your ex or what you lost.
- You’re using work, alcohol, or distraction just to get through the day.
- You shut down emotionally or hate surface-level advice.
- You’re stuck between regret and rage.
- You want peace more than comfort.
- You’re ready to let go — fully, finally, for good.
How long does it take to get over my ex?
Most men don’t need more time. They need a breakthrough. Once you see clearly, healing speeds up.
Why will this work if nothing else has?
Because we get crystal clear on what’s really running the show — guilt, identity loss, pain, mental rumination. That’s the work most men never do.
What can we accomplish together?
- We cut through emotional noise and name what’s really keeping you stuck.
- We release guilt, grief, and hidden beliefs still tying you to your ex.
- We break the mental and emotional loop of obsession, silence, and self-blame.
- We rebuild your identity from clarity — not from pain.
- We calm your nervous system, not just your thoughts.
- We create a grounded, honest path forward — rooted in truth, not trauma.
Blog Publications
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How Cultural Shame About Divorce Shaped My Life And Choices
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Live Coaching Call With Clover Lam from Unconventional Asians
Watch a live coaching call with Clover Lam from Unconventional Asians.
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Are You Blaming Yourself For the Past Relationship Ending?
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To Live In The Present, Make Peace With the Past
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The Comfort Of Not Letting Go of Your Ex
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Read these 5 lessons from author and blogger Mahevash Shaikh on her experiences and lessons with divorce.
...In Love But Worlds Apart During the Pandemic
A story about long distance relationships in the time of Corona. Lovers and couples are not able to visit and meet each other because of travel restrictions around the world.
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How To Process the Unbearable Pain of a Breakup
If you’re facing the emotional pain of a breakup, read this post on how to process the unbearable pain of your breakup. Learn how to process your feelings so you can move on and let go.
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