I am happy to be able to share this interview with you, by my friend, A.G. Billig. Watch this video to find out how to find the love your’re looking for in your life. Learn now to choose love each and every day. A.G. offers some practical tips to see and feel love.
A.G. Billing is an author and self-love coach. You can learn more about her work here at www.agbillig.com. To pick up her book, I Choose Love, visit her Amazon page here.
Do you feel like you’re not able to welcome and receive new relationships into your life? My friend, Priyanka, is back on the blog this week with practical advice you can use to overcome your relationship blocks and open your heart to love. Watch this 4-minute video on how to get clear in your life and manifest a relationship your heart desires.
My friend, Priyanka Yadvendu, is an author and women’s workshop facilitator. She helps women remove the blocks in their lives and welcome in love and abundance. To follow her blog and keep up with her work, visit www.priyankayadvendu.com. To pick up her latest novel, Enchanted Silence, click here.
Despite my past, I am still a hopeful romantic.
All I care about is the heart of a man.
I want to know what inspires him and what he’s passionate about. I want to know the kind of person he is without anything but his mind and soul.
Of course, physical chemistry must be there, but it is his deeper core values and approach to life that attract me.
No one is perfect, but it is within that realm of honest presentation where I can respect him, admire him and ultimately fall in love with him.
I cannot help but be put off when I see a man hoping to learn these things. I want to “see” who he is before I actually see him.
Unfortunately, I have been trained to be on high alert. Finally, today I trust my intuition, so I can feel his energy and pick up on certain vibes.
I know there is the mask and there is what’s real. I need to see real. I need real.
I am patient, so I’m going to wait for it.
I have already fallen for the “persona” and I simply can’t risk doing so again.
I wouldn’t survive that again and I know I’m lucky that I survived it in the past. I now know that love shouldn’t hurt. I know that love is kind, open, forgiving, soulful and joyful.
Every one of us has a choice. We can be bitter, angry or resentful.
Or we can be kind, appreciative and respectful.
We can always choose love.
So here I am, choosing to let go of my past and allowing love to come in. I am letting go of the hurt and pain, the people in my life who didn’t love me.
I want to be swept off my feet with love.
I have always been the thinker, the dreamer; I have always chosen to believe in love. I’ve tried to act in the highest state of love.
It is the only way to fight darkness.
It is the only way to let go of the people who hurt me, let go of the heartbreak that broke me and to release my past.
You can choose love by:
I’m not naive anymore. I am well aware of what is out there, so I’m patient. I give someone the time to reveal themselves without all the pomp and circumstance.
I trust more in what I feel and I listen, really listen.
I refuse to give up my romantic nature, my art, my poetry, my spirituality, my way of life because I like to dwell in passion in light and love.
I don’t stay stuck in my past, but I will never forget, either.
The past doesn’t define me or the world around me and herein lies my victory. Survival might be about breathing and getting through the day.
But living is a choice – a dedication to wake up every day to embrace joy, passion and love.
For me, it’s also about being that hopeless hopeful romantic.
I’m not going to settle. I’m going to wait for love to come ashore.
Hillary Barry is a Long Island New York-based reiki practioner at Beach Reiki. Her passion in life is to help raise the vibrational energy of the planet and heal one another through light work and love. You can follow her on Facebook here.
Alchemists are the magical medieval cooks of ancient traditions who transformed metal into gold and silver.
But for many of us, the book, The Alchemist, has literally transformed our lives and inspired us to stay true to our destiny.
It’s written by the Brazilian author, Paulo Coelho, who has sold 65 million copies of this book. Pharell loves this book. Madonna loves this book. Julia Roberts. Oprah. Will Smith and countless other famous and not so famous people.
This is the story of Santiago, the Andalucian shepherd boy, who is inspired by omens, gypsies and wise men to leave his sheep in Spain and go a journey to find his life’s treasure.
In the pursuit of his dreams, Santiago has a strong message to each and everyone of us on achieving our own destinies.
The book is a quick read that will inspire you to pursue your life’s purpose. If you haven’t read it, pick it up here.
If you don’t take chances and take risks, you won’t be able to reap the awards of the opportunities that come your way. Sometimes, you have to take risks and overcome your fears to follow your dreams.
You can choose your destiny. You have a choice on how your life is going to turn out. The future is in your hands. Even when things get out of control, you can shape your destiny.
When you pursuing your purpose and your destiny, the universe will do its part to support you and to help you succeed. Circumstances will fall in place and in your favor to help you achieve your destiny.
Keep your dreams alive. Don’t sacrifice the thing that matters most in your life – staying true to your purpose.
You will have signs that will lead you along the way – let them guide you on your path. Follow the signs and guide posts along the journey. Pay attention to messages that the universe is sending you.
Don’t give up half way – keep going!
If you have a dream, you’re obligated to pursue it. You have been given a gift of a dream – don’t let it slip through your hands. If you fail, you can go back to whatever you were doing before.
The universe sends us messages through luck and coincidences –pay attention to them.
You are being guided by the earth which shares the same soul that you do. See how the earth is working in your favor.
When you’re following your dreams and on your path, you’ll find the courage to do things you wouldn’t have otherwise done.
Your most difficult time will be right before you reach your destination. Keep going when it is darkest.
Be more aware of your intuition and you inner voice. When you listen to your heart, you’re less likely to listen to your fears.
You’ll get what you ask from the world. Ask for your heart’s desires – don’t shortchange yourself.
14. “Where your treasure is, there will also be your heart,” the alchemist had told him.
Your heart will lead you to your destination – listen to your heart because that’s where you’ll find your riches.
The people who overcome their fears and go after what they were meant to do will find abundance and success in their lives.
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“The greatest gift you were ever given was the gift of your imagination. Within your magical inner realm is the capacity to have all your wishes fulfilled.” Wayne Dyer
Every time I’ve gone after a dream, I’ve been filled with fears, doubts and uncertainty.
When I first started blogging or when I first released a book I wrote, I had no idea how it was going to turn out. In fact, I was bombarded with thoughts of fear and failure.
When you pursue any dream in your life, there will be this little voice in your head that doubts your dreams and tries to undermine your success. You know that voice I’m talking about.
It can be difficult to see your dreams through from creation to success, because of these self-sabotaging thoughts and mental patterns.
If you’re like me, you begin to think about how everything can go wrong.
You see obstacles, problems, procrastination and stumbling blocks.
You think you’re going to fail.
That’s where Wayne Dyer’s book, Wishes Fulfilled, came into my life, and helped me change the view of
It will single-handedly give you the tools you need to help you drown out the loud noises of self-doubt and go after your dreams.
The book starts with a reminder of who you are and how to first claim your divinity.
“Your higher self is a piece of an all-loving, all-embracing creative Source.”
If you’re cut out of the fabric of divinity, you’re part of a divine cloth.
Dyer encourages you to start from this place of divine knowledge and from a place of your spirit.
Experiment with such affirmations as, “I am all-knowing, I am all-powerful, I am unlimited.”
“Try this: imagine God as the ocean. If you take a bucket out of the ocean, is the water in the bucket the ocean?”
From this place of accepting your divine nature, you can materialize your every wish and desire.
Here are 5 steps that Wayne Dyer shares with us in Wishes Fulfilled to help you fulfill your wishes and make them come true.
1. Your sacred imagination
Your dreams and, more specifically, your imagination form a sacred space. This is not something you should deny or assume doesn’t exist anymore as it did during your childhood.
Try not to contaminate your imagination with negativity or the things you don’t want to materialize in your life. Do not allow disempowering ides of how your life used to be take up space in your imagination.
“Your imagination is your own fertile field for growing any seedling that you choose to plant for a future harvest.”
Don’t let your “reality” or how you see the world today govern your imagination. Imagine and mentally visualize where you want your life to be in the future.
2. Affirm your imagination
Rely on your inner spiritual guide and permit your thoughts to transform.
Be confident and persistent about what your mind can already see in the future.
Use empowering “I am” affirmations.
Affirm, “I am love”.
“I am happiness.”
“I am prosperous.”
“Be fearless, and let those ideals be your reality.”
3. Feel your new reality
“Make your future dream a personal fact, by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”
Dyer suggests that knowing something spiritually is experiencing it – feeling it.
“By literally feeling the reality of the state you seek, which is firmly in your imagination, you have the means of creating miracles,” Dyer writes.
He cites Neville Goddard from the Feeling is the Secret, “a change of feeling is a change of destiny.”
Your feelings affect your subconscious mind, and what you feel is what manifests in your life.
You can choose where to focus your attention and what feelings to feel.
You can choose to feel good regardless of the problems and challenges you see in your life.
“Don’t dwell on your troubles, difficulties or illnesses.”
Instead, “feel the feeling of love in your body directed at what you place in your imagination as an idea, and then you activate the subconscious mind.”
4. Intention and attention
What you focus on and pay attention to materializes.
“You never allow your outer circumstances to deflect you from your desires.”
Instead of focusing on the results and the current circumstances of your life, focus on your dreams and desires. Stay true to the vision you have for your life and what you believe is possible for you.
Have trust and faith that your dreams and desires will come true, no matter what the outside circumstances appear to be.
Use superglue to attach your intentions to your imagination.
Manifesting your wishes is a spiritual process. To stay true to your life’s dreams, you’ll have to ignore facts, logic, past experiences and even your day-to-day reality.
5. Wake up (in your sleep)
Use sleep as a way to propel what you’re envisioning and to make your dreams materialize.
You can reprogram your subconscious mind by changing what you think about before going to bed.
Be mindful of the thoughts that are floating through your mind.
Stay positive, hopeful and confident about your wishes and dreams, especially before you snooze. Feel peace; right before you fall asleep, visualize and assume that your dreams have already come true.
Allow your pre-sleep ritual to reprogram your mind so that you’ll fall asleep imagining your dreams coming true.
It’s time to let go of what has happened and what your current life looks like.
Dyer encourages you to transform your life by escaping reality and staying true to the unlimited possibilities in your imagination.
Embrace your divine nature and allow everything to manifest from this soulful place.
“Seek divine wealth, not the paltry tinsel of earth. After acquiring inward treasures you will find that outward supply is always forthcoming.” Srimati Kashi Moni, Autobiography of a Yogi
To pick up a copy of Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting, click here.
I remember one Christmas when I was growing up and wanted a big box of Legos.
I’m not talking about one of those tiny sets that would build a castle; I’m talking about the whole enchilada—an entire kingdom. This was a giant Lego box that I, along with my brothers, deeply desired, but all December I remained uncertain as to whether or not I would be gifted this luxury.
I remember that, during the weeks leading up to Christmas, I was filled with anxiety. I remember having discussions with my parents about the box’s cost. My Indian parents reminded me that the Lego set was a big sacrifice and financial commitment on their part.
Christmas day came and, ultimately, my brothers and I received the Lego set we wanted—but it was after much anxiety and uncertainty.
A couple of other incidents in my childhood had similar lasting impacts. One was the constant talk in my family about money and whether or not various things were affordable. I’m sure this is a conversation that occurs in every household, but the predominant thought in my family regarding every purchase was, “Can we afford it?”
I guess the incidents that stood out the most, and that were the most embarrassing, for me involved school projects and field trips that families had to pay for. I recall that, regardless of the field trip or event, my parents would inquire whether a fee reduction or scholarship of some sort was available.
Now, let me say three things here.
One, many of these behaviors could have been cultural—Indian people hate to pay full price for anything. It’s why they have a love/hate relationship with America. Their earning capacities are high, and they constitute one of the wealthiest communities out there, but they can’t fathom paying full price for anything.
In the motherland, we bargain, negotiate, plead, and coerce shopkeepers, dentists, and even auto drivers to give us the best possible prices.
Two, as immigrants to the United States and operators of a new business, my parents were doing something inherently risky. Having invested their lives’ assets into a small family business was nerve-wracking. Being in a new country like the United States, running a business, and managing a family’s finances was hard work.
What I’m saying is that my parents were certainly in a financial crunch and that the money issues our family faced were likely real.
Since graduating from law school, I’ve run my own businesses in the United States and know the highly unpredictable nature of business. Until the next client comes along, you never know whether you can meet your monthly expenses or hit your bottom line.
Three, I want to say that although I don’t blame my parents for the rocky financial situation I faced during childhood, I do think it affected me. When you’re constantly being told that your family doesn’t have enough, or that it’s unclear whether your family can meet simple expenses, you end up with fearful attitudes about money and constantly feel as though you don’t have enough.
The money-related anxiety and fear that our parents instill in us can damage us financially for life.
When you want to live a richer life, you forget about the underlying subconscious script playing at the back of your mind. You don’t realize that your entire outlook and ability to earn is being held back by your beliefs and blocks about money.
You can read all the blogs, books, and magazine articles in the world, but your money situation is not going to change until you address the underlying beliefs about it.
If you’ve grown up in a household that was tight about finances (and I’ll just say any Indian or Asian household), you likely have certain beliefs about money that are not based on reality but, instead, are based on traditions or mindsets cultivated over generations.
Some common false beliefs about money include:
You get the idea.
You have, I have, we all have been inundated with these limiting beliefs about money. Many of us have taken these beliefs to heart and have allowed them to shape our views of the world.
So when you’re struggling with money issues or having difficulty making ends meet, you must attack the root cause of your problems—your money mindset.
You have very deep, subconscious, and psychological fears about money.
Would it be fair to call this an emotional money trauma?
When you grow up without enough food to eat, you’re likely to feel that you might run out of food.
It’s the same with love. When you don’t have enough love as a child, you’ll tend to feel rejected and abandoned throughout your life.
Ditto with money. When you struggle with money during your formative years, you’ll have some deep emotional wounds and, consequently, believe you’ll never have enough of it.
Forget about making money for now. There are plenty of programs, methods, and people out there who will tell you how to earn more money.
It’s not your bank account you should be concerned with, but your money mindset.
Let’s get to the root issues surrounding money.
Instead of thinking about what you don’t have and what you’re lacking, think about what you want in your life. What does abundance feel like to you?
What would it feel like to not worry about money? Where would you live? What would you do with your time? What would you buy?
Have you ever experienced a period of abundance in your life? How would you walk? How would you breathe? Imagine and stay in a place of abundance instead of a place of lack.
Use positive visualizations to imagine having enough. Imagine whatever it is your heart desires. What would make you feel abundant?
Get creative and picture an abundant life in your mind. Some people create vision boards that portray a visually compelling picture of an abundant life. But you can just as effectively visualize a picture of a rich life.
How do you embrace the vibrations of joy and gratitude when you feel neither? Well, here’s the thing—you gotta start cultivating these feelings in your life.
You have small moments of joy every day. Capture it, cultivate it, and create more of it. Actively schedule activities that bring you absolute joy. Try to refrain from those activities that make you feel horrible about yourself.
Put yourself in high-vibrational places where you’re emitting positive energy.
If hanging out with your high-achieving sister who works at Goldman Sachs and who has two kids and the perfect house makes you feel like a loser, spend less time with your sister!
If your daily yoga class or workout makes you feel good about yourself and brings joy into your life, make sure those activities are on your calendar.
Fight for your joyous activities every day. Do things that bring you pleasure (unless they require a bottle of Crown Royal or could get you arrested).
I hate luxurious things; it probably doesn’t help for me to write that here.
I grew up wanting to do something that would help a lot of people, serve others, and create a more just world. I practiced law to balance the scales of justice for some of the most vulnerable people in society. I worked as a union organizer to give workers a voice and to help them stand up to corporations.
While it’s understandable that I’m not comfortable surrounded by luxury, I’ve tried to reverse that trend by putting myself in luxurious places. I’ve walked through and hung out in the lobbies of the fanciest hotels in the world. I’ve embraced the experience of going to conferences where I was put up in nice hotels. I’ve volunteered to take rides in fancy cars.
I’ve spent days at nice beach resorts and even eaten at a handful of fancy restaurants, all in an effort to help myself get comfortable with luxurious places. In the process, I’ve dealt with my own resistance and uncomfortableness. I’m trying to embrace luxury so I will stop resisting it.
Similarly, I encourage you to take a couple of actions this week. Go to places where you normally wouldn’t go. Have coffee and dessert at a fancy restaurant. Walk through a place like Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills, Fifth Avenue in New York City, or the Shoppes at Marina Bay Sands in Singapore.
What kind of abundance do you want in your life? Travel? Wealth? Better relationships? The man of your dreams? More excitement? Enjoyment? A more exotic city to live in?
Whatever it is you seek, try playing that role. What do I mean by this?
Take a trip to the city where you want to live. Dress up in the clothes you would wear if you had an abundant life.
Have a meal at a nicer restaurant. Attend plays at artsy theaters.
If you can upgrade your hotel room, your rental car, or the meal you ordered, go for it. Do those things you would do if money was not an object.
Live up your life a little and try to do those things that you would do if you had all the money you wanted.
You don’t have to spend exorbitant amounts of money either; look for free events and opportunities. Rent cars or clothes to help you feel more abundant.
Essentially, set yourself up in situations and play roles that help you feel more abundant.
I’ve not talked much about affirmations here, but they have helped myself and others. My friend, Farnoosh, talks about how affirmations were critical to changing her mindset and helping her become an entrepreneur.
In this post, Farnoosh not only provides examples of affirmations you can use, but also offers a one-minute affirmation video.
Here are some wealth affirmations from Jonathan Parker you can use as well.
If your mind is filled with negativity and thoughts of lack, repeat affirmations regularly to shift your mindset to more positivity and abundance.
Keep a list of your affirmations on your refrigerator, bathroom mirror, or steering wheel so you’ll have a continual reminder of them.
If you would like to create more abundance in your life, you can also try a meditation. This 10-minute meditation by Lilou is one I’ve found effective:
I don’t quite know why tapping works, but I have found that it creates a state of abundance in my life.
It’s based on ancient teachings and acupuncture points on your body. You tap these various designated points and repeat affirmations of healing and positivity toward your money blocks.
Again, weird as heck, but what you’re doing is tapping into your unconscious mind patterns and breaking through subconsciously to clear your money blocks.
Try to do this when no one’s around because if anyone is watching you, he or she might call the local mental health clinic to wheel you away.
Videos I regularly use include these two by former Harvard lawyer Erika Awakening and certified hypnotherapist Brad Yates.
7. Continually acknowledge abundance.
When good things show up in our lives, we tend to ignore them.
Instead of doing this, take a moment to celebrate the synchronicities that show up in your life. These are coincidences and blessings.
Get serious about showing appreciation for the small things.
Be grateful for your car and for the money you use to buy gas. Be thankful to your boss who lets you go home early. Be grateful to the client who pays off his or her bills, or the patient who brings you a fancy box of Cadbury’s chocolates.
Every night, write a list of 10 to 20 items you’re thankful for. Your family counts, your pets count, your annoying neighbors moving out from the next-door apartment counts, and so does the lunch your best friend treated you to.
Get in the spirit of feeling more abundant. During college, in my quest to live like the Average Joe, I bought my clothes from thrift stores and second-hand stores. It didn’t bother me if the clothes were torn or had holes in them.
Since that time, I’ve realized that, no, the average person doesn’t wear torn or ripped clothing.
While I still prefer simple clothes, and have only a minimal number of clothes, I try to buy better-quality clothing and have even purchased a couple of nicer shirts.
Your closet doesn’t need to look like the rack at Nordstrom’s, but you can purchase a few good-quality shirts or dresses. Wear them on a regular basis and feel more abundant by sporting some stylish fashions.
Some people say a vision board can inspire more wealth and abundance. On it, you place pictures of what you want to see in your life.
I have a different approach. I put things on my vision board that simply inspire me and that put me in a better mood. I incorporate quotes that inspire me, people who inspire me, and other photos and pictures that make me feel good.
I use this inspiration board to create a sense of happiness and positive vibrations so every time I look at it, I feel more abundance. My inspiration board is filled with peaceful places, churches, sanctuaries and a few famous people (Oprah, Deepak Chopra and hey, even my hero, Leo Babauta)
Finally, there’s no better way to feel a sense of abundance than to give back.
When you give, you feel better about yourself. Giving is the simplest and easiest way to feel abundance in your life.
When you give, you’re telling the universe that you’re in a state of wealth and enough. You can’t give unless you have.
Of course, you can’t give money when you don’t have money. But you can give your time and your energy. You can give your attention and your presence. You can provide free services or just help someone. Do one small act of kindness a day.
All of these practices will help you feel more abundance. If you’re wondering why you don’t have the money you desire, don’t sit back and do nothing.
And don’t take action alone without shifting your vibrations and your mindset.
No online course, special training, or raise at work will help until you change your mindset regarding money.
Start with these money-blocking exercises to break through your abundance blocks.
Feel more abundance and you’ll start seeing more abundance in your life.
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